When dealing with matters of gender equality, there is nothing more egregious than pulling the unsubstantiated “I wasn’t hired because I am a woman” card.
The issue of women receiving unfair treatment by their male counterparts has been well-documented. I don’t doubt for a minute that women experience scathing discrimination in STEM fields. However, it isn’t limited to just tech – other fields experience this as well. So many of us know what it feels like to work really hard only to be bypassed by a man with lesser qualifications. It happens! But we need to know when to put the sword down, accept our flaws and understand how they impact our ability to get ahead.
Elizabeth Bentivegna’s story came across my news feed this morning and after reading it I just thought to myself: “*smh* She’s full of it. And why is her bag baby blue?”.
This is how she was dressed for a professional interview:
The Mary Sue reached out to Bentivegna, and this was her response:
I was contacted in late March by a female recruiter regarding a programming job at OnShift. Since I am not graduating until December, they were interested in hiring me as a summer intern and asked me to come into their Cleveland offices for an interview. I spoke with a hiring director (female) and two engineering managers (male). I felt very good about all of my conversations – I thought I got along very well with everyone and I got a good vibe from the environment. One of the engineers asked me a programming question and my answer was correct – he even complimented me on asking a question about the problem that none of the other candidates had asked. When I left, I felt very positive about my chances – I did not feel as though there had been anything wrong, and honestly I expected to get the job.
The next day, I emailed the hiring director asking when I should expect to hear back from them, and received no reply. I waited almost two weeks and emailed her again, and she said that they were down to one internship slot. About four days after that, I received a call from the recruiter. She told me that OnShift would love to hire me based on my technical skills and personality, but that they were not going to. These are the reasons she cited:
1) I “looked more like I was about to go clubbing than to an interview”
2) I “had a huge run in my tights”
3) I was late. I had told the hiring director beforehand that I would probably be a few minutes late, and then explained to her when I arrived that I had gotten mildly lost on my way).
The recruiter said that those factors caused them to decide that I was “unprofessional and not put-together”.
She didn’t get the job. Are we surprised?
Newsflash: Boo boo the fool doesn’t live here. But since she thinks he does, then she shouldn’t have to play by the rules.
The rule you ask? That we dress professionally and arrive on time for an interview. Yes, that one.
I am here for gender equality. All of it. I want us to be paid just as much as our male counterparts.
I want us to be considered for promotions based on our merits, not denied or promoted based on what lies between our legs.
Translation: We want all the coins!
But we have to play by the rules. And nothing makes my teeth itch more than seeing a woman play this card. Not only was she late but came dressed unprofessionally and lacked the humility to accept the feedback and make the necessary changes. Instead, she pulls this “I wasn’t hired because of my looks” card which implies their decision was a superficial one.
Elizabeth Bentivegna’s story isn’t about discrimination or not being hired for her “looks”. This is about a young, arrogant and entitled woman who thinks that in spite of her unprofessional dress and being late for the interview, she should have landed the position.
Who does this? Where? Take me there.
THIS is why we’re not taken seriously.
Interviewing means you put your best foot forward. We wouldn’t fart in the same room with a guy on the first date. Clearance for that happens after you get comfortable. Right?
So it would stand to reason that once you have the job then you follow dress code. If it is the culture of said company to dress like that – sure. But before you sign employment papers? NO!
By making her classless profanity laced rant public, she’s now sullied her name in the media and I wonder about her prospects for employment because I would not take her seriously.
My advice? A public apology to the company and the HR manager who took the time to give you feedback would be a good place to start. Eat the humble pie being served and buy a few interview appropriate pieces. Then start over.
You my dear cannot sit with us.