I feel like such a bad fairy blog mother. Life has gotten a bit hectic with me graduating next month and balancing my work and personal life. So here goes:
Randoms Notes, Updates and Insights
This weekend the man and I went down to the OuterBanks, NC for some rest and relaxation, well needed too! I guess you can say this was our staycation. It was sort of a last minute trip but we had fun nonetheless.
Im back and feeling nauseous because I can’t do long road trips and so Im left feeling dizzy and disoriented.
Bills, Bills, Bills
I also just paid $2k in fees and bills which is another story in and of itself. Im a little irritated about it but the best thing was to pay it and move on. I have a $1200 bill to pay my school before I can walk down the aisle and my HOA company because of all sorts of incompetent f*ckery says I owe them $880. I’m completing the payments this morning. I’m just happy that we can pay it and move on. This furthers my desire to get the hell out of this area.
Now that I have a job, one that I like and don’t see myself leaving any time soon it feels good to make my own money. I still struggle with being the trailing spouse at some point in our marriage because I really like what I do and fear having to give that up to follow my husband some where else. While in graduate school I felt so vulnerable not working and it’s hard to explain even though I knew I would be fine if we were to ever split during that time. I think it’s because I read so much from you guys, especially stay at home moms/wives now going through separation and divorce, now trying to find themselves and a career.
It was a risk that I took, a personal one that went against everything I knew but I guess that’s what marriage is all about. He still wears the pants and makes more money than I do but now I feel like we are on a level playing field again. I am no longer a stay at home wife in graduate school. I have a career, 3 degrees and now work for my own money! I love it!
Now that I am making my own money, I do have to exercise more self control, yes even with a recession. I am frugal but perhaps not as frugal as others would like. This is because Im not participating in the recession. I believe that you are what you think you are and I see ourselves as living abundant lives. We have an emergency fund, still paying down debt but still living life and not retreating to the rat hole because of tough times. I try to see the silver lining in every storm and since I have one life, Im going to live it. Being in a recession doesnt mean I have to run around here living in a panic. I have a plan, know what I can live with and what I can live without and Im OK with that. Until such circumstances present themselves I’ll continue practicing what I preach: Save More, Spend Less and Invest For the Long term.
Tomorrow I’ll talk about Suze’s 5 Smart Money Moves, which invloves stashing half of your income. I told the man that we’re going to do this for 3 months to see how well we can stick to it. After all, that’s what we were doing before I got a job!