I feel like such a bad fairy blog mother.  Life has gotten a bit hectic with me graduating next month and balancing my work and personal life.  So here goes:

Randoms Notes, Updates and Insights

This weekend the man and I went down to the OuterBanks, NC for some rest and relaxation, well needed too!  I guess you can say this was our staycation.  It was sort of a last minute trip but we had fun nonetheless.

Im back and feeling nauseous because I can’t do long road trips and so Im left feeling dizzy and disoriented.

Bills, Bills, Bills

I also just paid $2k in fees and bills which is another story in and of itself.  Im a little irritated about it but the best thing was to pay it and move on.  I have a $1200 bill to pay my school before I can walk down the aisle and my HOA company because of all sorts of incompetent f*ckery says I owe them $880.  I’m completing the payments this morning.  I’m just happy that we can pay it and move on.  This furthers my desire to get the hell out of this area.

Career

Now that I have a job, one that I like and don’t see myself leaving any time soon it feels good to make my own money.  I still struggle with being the trailing spouse at some point in our marriage because I really like what I do and fear having to give that up to follow my husband some where else.  While in graduate school I felt so vulnerable not working and it’s hard to explain even though I knew I would be fine if we were to ever split during that time.  I think it’s because I read so much from you guys, especially stay at home moms/wives now going through separation and divorce, now trying to find themselves and a career.

It was a risk that I took, a personal one that went against everything I knew but I guess that’s what marriage is all about.  He still wears the pants and makes more money than I do but now I feel like we are on a level playing field again.  I am no longer a stay at home wife in graduate school.  I have a career, 3 degrees and now work for my own money!  I love it!

Money Honey!

Now that I am making my own money, I do have to exercise more self control, yes even with a recession.  I am frugal but perhaps not as frugal as others would like.  This is because Im not participating in the recession.  I believe that you are what you think you are and I see ourselves as living abundant lives.  We have an emergency fund, still paying down debt but still living life and not retreating to the rat hole because of tough times.  I try to see the silver lining in every storm and since I have one life, Im going to live it.  Being in a recession doesnt mean I have to run around here living in a panic.  I have a plan, know what I can live with and what I can live without and Im OK with that.  Until such circumstances present themselves I’ll continue practicing what I preach: Save More, Spend Less and Invest For the Long term.

Tomorrow I’ll talk about Suze’s 5 Smart Money Moves, which invloves stashing half of your income.  I told the man that we’re going to do this for 3 months to see how well we can stick to it.  After all, that’s what we were doing before I got a job!