Can you imagine working hard in school, finally looking forward to reaping the benefits and the EX wants YOU to pay child support based on your check?  No.. Noo NO!  The ex would have to be out of her rabbit @$$ mind to think I would ever pay up.

*breathing deeply and fanning self*

Dear Miss Jia,
My wife first introduced me to your site, now I have become an official Miss Jia follower. Normally I would seek advice from those who I surround myself with but this situation is a lost cause. Recently my wife graduated top of her class earning her M.D. in Pharmacy, accepting a position with Walgreen’s. Her annual income to gross is anywhere from 75,000 to 80,000 a year. As you know when you are married, your gross income is combine to make one.
We don’t share bank accounts nor do we file our taxes together. First let me say my wife income is twice as much as I make, which I don’t have a problem with. A few weeks back I picked up my child from a neutral meeting place which has to be open to the public (Court Ordered). By no means do I converse with the mother of my child about anything unless it has to do with my child.

No, I’m not going to talk about how she is this and that. I knew how she was from the beginning. She made the comment of how she couldn’t wait to get me back in court because we are “big money” now.I am paraphrasing. So, a week or two goes by and my wife is served with official court documents requesting her appearance in Family Court. Now mind you this is my child. My wife cares for and has a healthy relationship with my daughter. My wife is being sued under that statute that my child’s mother can’t provided the type of life style that my wife and myself can provide and it isn’t fair to our daughter.

My wife is basically refusing to come to a settlement agreement and as she states she would rather go to jail than pay for my child’s mother living expenses (We both know it isn’t for the use of benefiting my daughter). Now, my wife suggests that we file for custody. I don’t want to take my daughter away from her mother but I also do not want my wife to be upset if the court rules in favor of the amount my ex is requesting (I have a feeling they’re going to rule in her favor). I do think is an excessive amount for a five year old. I feel as long as I am providing for my child and she doesn’t have to go without the daily necessities for living it shouldn’t be a problem.

This situation has caused a problem in my marriage my wife feels as she didn’t build a career for herself so my ex can benefit from her earnings. My question is does my wife have the right to be upset, or should she just accept things for the way they are because she knew what she was getting into knowing I already had a child?


I can’t ! LOL!  I totally feel where his wife is coming from!  I work HARD for my money and you mean to tell me that the EX now wants ME to pay child support?  No ma’am, I would sue for custody or we would divorce.  Call me selfish or whatever because it wouldn’t go down like that.  My pastor would have to soak me in holy water before I let that go down.

What say you?  Would you fight the EX in court or pay the child support for an easy life?