Dutch On The First Date: Why or Why Not?

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Rogerdodger

If your not going to put out i’m not spending the hundred bucks!
Or else we go dutch…..
Not too many guys can afford to date two three times a week at a hundred bucks a time.
I sure as hell can’t!
realist

is this a gold digger site? if the guy pays then you should clean his house
Zerbu

I'm a guy and I've chosen to stay single. I'm not surprised a lot of guys are turning gay or choosing celibacy.
http://www.onlinepharmacyreviews.biz MsBloom

The gentleman should pay for the bills, that is how itwas in the old days and how it should still be!

MrBloom

Well according to you, all women should be working in the kitchen or cleaning up the house. That's how it was in the old days and how it should still be!
Zerbu

The lady should get back in the kitchen and do all the housework. That's is how itwas in the old days and how it should still be!

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If you ask this question to me then it would become much confusing to me as at first date we are almost new, and we don't know about it that if your girl friend would pay then what effect would be there and if you pay then what effect would be on your girl friend, and when the times come to pay then both of you started to take out money from your pocket and purse to pay. I think money shouldn't come in love matter because love is priceless and think for few dollars you are loosing or wining your love its not fare, you shouldn't think so…. think about those happy moments that may come in future…………..
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Yep, the one who asked should pay for the date and if there's any doubt; the man should pay!

Zerbu

No, if there's doubt, it should be split.
Equality!

http://SpendOnLife.com Ashley

I've done it all (dutch, he paid, I paid) and I have to say I feel most comfortable when I a guy pays for the first date. I'm not concerned with how much money he makes (we could go get a $1 snow cone) but I like the girly feeling you get from knowing that a guy wants to "provide" for you even if it's something very small.

When I've paid for both of us or paid for my own I instantly am less attracted and more likely to find other things wrong the guy, even if I like him. I agree with Ginger, the lack of chivalry in a girl paying leaves something to be desired.

Zerbu

WOW! You are SO sexist!

Olivia Ting

Whoever asked pays for the date. period.
http://jing-wen.com/ Amanda

It's the twenty-first century. I make my own money, they make their own money. Why should we automatically expect the guy to pay? Whatever happened to women's lib? We can't ask for things like equal pay and equal opportunity at work, then expect special treatment in things like this. Equality all around!

I always go Dutch on the first date – my now boyfriend and I alternate now each time we go out, and while we're not perfectly even (one day we might go to a cheap diner, the next we might go to an actual restaurant), it works out well as we're both in a similar situation. We're both part-time graduate students, I work and earn a bit more than he does, but he'll end up earning more than me when we're working full-time.
Sara

I believe whoever asks should do the paying or you should go dutch. I went dutch with my now husband when we were dating because it was a very fuzzy line from when we were dating and when we were just friends. Then we alternated who paid. Still do that.
Jenni

Whoa, guess I'm in the minority here. My relationship is a little different because we started as friends first, but throughout our two years together, he's paid, I've paid, and we've split the bill on dates. There was a time when I was making much more money than he was, and it made sense for me to pay.

If I was starting a new relationship and didn't know the guy? I guess, yeah, I'd like him to pay … but it wouldn't be a huge deal for me to pay my own tab. I'm a woman with my own income … I think I can handle my side of the bill.
http://www.awomansblog.com Tawnya

Call it my southern breeding, but I wouldn't go dutch on ANY date unless 1)it wasn't a date & instead just a night out with a male friend or 2)We'd been dating for over a year & had gotten comfortable or were engaged.

But a first date? If he suggested it, it would be the last time I ever went out with him.

Zerbu

Whoa, you are very chauvinistic.

http://meinmillions.blogspot.com/ me in millions

Absolutely not. It's the whole "he's just not that into you" concept. If he likes you, he wants to impress you and he'll pay for the first date. A guy who doesn't pay for the first date (especially if he was the one who did the asking) or suggests going dutch is cheap and there's a reason he's still dating and not in a relationship.

Zerbu

You refused to pay a penny. Aren't YOU the one being cheap?