Update: Sending A Family Member Money
Im sure some of you already figured out that I sent the money. Yes, I did and just know that it was for a good reason. I did end up missing a conference where I was to present but I guess during times like this you just have to make hard decisions.
I know that I’m not ever going to see that money again so Im not worried about it, I guess this situation stands out because I do have fairly rigid rules about enabling family members in financial situations. After talking with my husband, I realized this wasn’t what it could look like to others and so we decided to go ahead and send the money.
You see, I’m from Jamaica, originally-born and raised there. My aunt who raised me until I came here to the States, well her son go into some trouble a few years back. She bailed him out, however he never showed up to court. In Jamaica, the person who bails you out goes to jail if you don’t show up to court. So she would have went to jail for 30+ days had she not come up with the money to pay the court/bail bondsman. She suffers from extremely high blood pressure and needless to say I couldnt risk her being sent to a jail where no rules/laws are observed and have her experience a stroke or worse.
The relationship between my cousin and I is of course, strained as Im not sure how he would rather his own mom do jail time for him instead of being present to accept the consequences of his actions. But it is what it is and only time will tell how this situation progresses.
So there you have it! :-)
Glad you were able to help your cousin. The story about your aunt was moving.
That is heartbreaking! I am very glad you sent the money and I don't think I would have even hesitated in a situation like that.
I don't understand how your cousin could allow his mother to end up in prison for him. I have no respect for people like that especially a yardie. Anyway you do what you have to and I would have done the same.
I hear you. Im not sure how he could do this either but until I see him again it is what it is. MY main concern was making sure she didnt go to jail for him and his nonsense. Im not mad, just more disappointed but more than happy to help out.
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Sometimes we have to tolerate and to help others for unwanted causes but in a cruel life you did the right thing which we is difficult to do. I am sorry for your aunt though.
Ginger.. I'm happy you were in the position to help out. I understand your disappointment but it's nothing you can do but what you've already done. Kudos to you and your hubby!
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Im rather calm about how I feel towards my cousin, really just wondering what's going on in his head but it is what it is. Im just happy she is free to live her life. I can only imagine how my aunt feels about him though.
Very good story, loved hearing your point of view.