Toxic Wife Economics: How To Spot A Toxic Wife
It’s been a long time but I’m back in the saddle with a new article for you. Have you heard of a “toxic wife”? I sure haven’t. We’ve had our share of stay at home wives vs stay at home moms vs working wives/women debates here but this is my darlings is a new level. What sparked my interest was this article: Recession: When the money goes, so does the toxic wife.
The articles describes the toxic wife as the following:
Not to be confused with the stay-at-home mother who selflessly devotes herself to the upbringing of her children, with all the housework and domestic chores that entails, the Toxic Wife is the woman who gives up work as soon as she marries, ostensibly to create a stable home environment for any offspring that might come along, but who then employs large numbers of staff to do all the domestic work she promised to undertake, leaving her with little to do all day except shop, lunch and luxuriate.
Like a frog, the Toxic Wife needs to hop safely on to another lily pad, and a rich one, before leaving her husband. She won’t stand on her own two feet. And finding a job is quite beneath her.
When asked why his wife walked out on him, one man replied:
“She has a very high standard of living,” he said. ”She’s never taken the Tube or a bus; it’s always taxis. And she likes to eat out a lot, at the best restaurants, and she likes to buy expensive gifts for people she wants to impress.
“As soon as the financial wobbles started, she must have joined some upmarket dating agency because somehow she’s found another very rich man pretty damn fast.”
Life Coach, Susie Ambrose goes on to say…
”[These women] …are like businessmen – utterly ruthless”. The rich man is the career path, the meal ticket, and it doesn’t matter how fat, old, balding or unattractive he is – it’s solely about money.
”These particular women know how to fake love,” adds Ambrose. ”They’re actually very good at it.”
So I think it’s fair to say that based on the descriptions given that these women are gold-diggers. Notice, there’s now a clear line between a stay at home wife and a trophy/toxic wife. These women apparently are only in it for the money and once the money runs out, steady she goes jumping to the next unsuspecting lump of cash.
The following are off the table:
LOVE
Unconditional acceptance
Intimacy
Children if he’s too poor to give them the high lifestyle and I think it’ safe to say she won’t be picking his dirty drawers. *snicker* Reminds me of Gretchen from Housewives of Orange County.
I got quite a few chuckles from the descriptions alone, not to mention the first few paragraphs, oh to be a fly on the wall in that house! This topic brings to mind why we should work towards being an asset and not a liability/depreciating asset in our relationships. I think it’s one thing to shoot for a successful man because that’s part of your criteria, but totally another when you do this for a living. How much depth is there to such a woman?
What do you think about toxic wives? Should they get a job or is this a business just like any other?
I know what you mean. I just have to wonder how shallow is it to chase after men SOLEY for their money. And the thing is, what if you have no prospects? Are you living by the seat of the next man's crotch? Hope that sounds right lol But Im serious, for the women that do this, obviously their money isnt right if they have to jump quickly from man to man to maintain a lifestyle, what happens when there is no man? What then?
I have a former friend who is a "toxic fiancee". I know what she's on to, and therefore stopped being her friend…but yeah, pretty much what is described in your post.
Mr M's mom would qualify as a toxic wife, though the current bank account she is latched onto belongs to another woman! He is the product of a fourth marriage, his dad was a wealthy, older doctor/businessman and his mom was a 20 year old model. My understanding is that she has always attached herself to wealthy people (both sexes) and used her beauty and conniving to live in luxury and never work.
From reading this article, a Toxic Wife sounds like she's a woman that knows what she wants and has made it her mission to get just that. If her mission was to be with the person for their money and once the money is gone, then they should leave. Why stay when that's the ONLY reason why they wanted to be with the person in the first place. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm just on the fence of judging her lifestyle. I think it's obvious to a man when a woman marries him for his money and assets. He might choose to ignore the signs for fear of being alone. I don't know any Toxic Wives personally. I'm just going off of the information provided in the post.
Sure she know what she wants, but at the same time women like this are obviously not saving for THEIR long term stability if they have to jump from crotch to crotch to maintain a certain lifestyle. It doesnt make sense to be married to a wealthy man but once his wealth declines it turns out that you didnt save or put something away for a rainy day.
I could respect them if they did but the article points out that they are left to choose between a downgraded lifestyle or find another man quickly to maintain the current lifestyle.
A savvy toxic wife would be sure to stockpile assets – even if it's just jewelry and other material items she could sell – while she is young and beautiful and can rope in those rich men for a period of years. A golddigger's retirement fund of sorts. After all, the shelf life of a toxic wife is bound to be short – maybe 15 years at the most – since there's always a younger hotter more naive and maybe even cheaper crop of golddiggers coming up behind them.
These toxic women don't bother me too much because the toxic husbands they get are just as disgusting and superficial. Let them have each other; they are all doubtlessly miserable.
Problem is though, this behavior permeates all through society. It is such a shame that people can not understand the social ramifications of this, because if people think this ONLY happens in the top income bracket then they are sadly mistaken. Time will tell as it always has, and when there is an entire generation of males out there, that revile, and hate the institution of marrage, people will ask why. I pray that it wont go that far before people realise.
Destroy love, romance, and true love between a woman and a man at your peril. Or don't. I mean the world is in a fabulous shape just how it is……right……..RIGHT!!!!!
How is it that they GET to the point of being a WIFE? These men are obsessed with beauty.
They should be honest with themselves about these women and I believe most of them are.
You can't be old, jacked up and homely and not know that a high maintenance woman wouldn't feel the same about you if you were broke.
The toxic wives and the men they marry deserve each other, so at least there's no one to feel sorry for. If the man is too dumb to know that she's just after his money, or does know it and is willing to overlook it in order to get a certain type of woman, he deserves what he gets!
Honestly, this sounds like another stupid cultural meme that we'll all hear about forever but which doesn't really apply to too many people, much like "hockey moms" were supposed to be the next big political phenomenon. I doubt there are actually that many 'toxic wives' in existence. I'm sure some of these women exist, but the story is just overblown. Periodically these stories crop up in newspapers, and they're always the same: women are lazy! They just want men's money! Why don't they stay at home and TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN AND DO THE CHORES?! THE APOCALYPSE IS NIGH!! Et cetera. Best to just ignore all of this hysteria. There are no more golddiggers in the world then ever before — in fact, there are probably fewer because women are now able to support themselves. Most women, when faced with the choice of depending forever on a man to support them or supporting themselves, will choose to get a job and support themselves. Most women are not stupid. They realize beauty does not last and they don't want to be forever in fear that their husbands/boyfriends/sugar daddies/whatevers will find someone younger and prettier and ditch them.
Ha, it funny that you threw Gretchen picture up there – I already thinking housewives of OC before I click to read the rest of the article
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That is good. Thanks for the great share!