After going back to work from my first baby's maternity leave, I went back to work for a couple of days a week. Obviously having to leave earlier than the rest to pick up my child from daycare is what started the feelings of not being perceived as a teamplayer. everyone else works late or extra hours, and generally I just dont choose to do that. when i get home and get the kids to bed, I am exhausted, and not feeling like starting to read up on work issues.

It is very nice to land here. It is a great forum

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And this statement was especially on point: “As for society, I think we should educate society to be more respectful, tolerant and accepting about the changes that human beings, (women in particular) go through”

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Anyhow, to answer your open queries, technically, this is the first time that this reality is given, well, a name. Like a disease that has been existing, only that no one knows what it’s called, or no one cared to name it. But now, at least these issues (“minor” as they may seem to be) are out in the open.

I think the issue of Professional Women Losing their Identities after Having a Baby is real. But as I said, no one has really talked about it. I’m not yet a mother, but I am a teacher and I felt it when I was still teaching in a school. As we all know, as a teacher, technically you become the second-mom of children during in school. When I was teaching, I felt that many people in the corporate field, doubted my capacity to do corporate work and ridiculed my decision to teach. Thing is, once you start teaching you sort of forget everything else and completely devote your time to your students or “children,” so it’s not like I outrightly defend or argue the fact that I am very capable and probably even more competent to work in the corporate field more than those who are there because of how I take responsibility seriously, you know? I guess, the belittling of people for teachers and mothers is probably due to the lack of awareness and knowledge about how hard it is to be a mom or a teacher.

It’s tempting to think that these people are ingrates and idiots to treat societal transformers that way, but indulging to that would just feed my ego in the wrong way. And so I choose not to think that way. Instead, what I do is just assert myself in the sense that I do the things I ought to do better, with more passion and love and let my record stand for myself instead of pure talk.

Right now I’m freelancing, working at home and doing commissioned work, and many still give me weird looks when I explain what I do, but to me it’s a matter of putting myself in their shoes. Sometimes ignorance really makes people say stupid and annoying things.

I think if ever, how women could address these problems of indirect discrimination is to simply prove them wrong by being the good workers that they are. I also think that professional women who’ve given birth should engage in moments of introspective reflection before getting into a professional endeavor after giving birth–just so that they will be empowered… so that they will remember who they are and what they’re worth. As for society, I think we should educate society to be more respectful, tolerant and accepting about the changes that human beings, (women in particular) go through.

Great insight btw. Thanks for the opportunity for a discussion.
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