Tricia Walsh Smith: Reason #1 Why Women Should Marry Smart
By now you’ve seen all the different blogs discussing Tricia Walsh Smith’s revenge served cold online via Youtube. In the video she refers to her soon to be ex as “mean, bad husband” and then refers to herself as “poor vulnerable Tricia” waiting desperately for her husband to “do the right thing”.
Do The Right Thing? Let’s take a look at that.
Her Mistakes And My Issues With Her Plea for Help
- She married a wealthy man without combing through her pre-nup to make sure that all of her needs were met to her satisfaction. Should her soon to be ex have a stroke, the pension kicks to his bank account (which his daughters control) but she didn’t fight detail while discussing the pre-nup? Where was she provided for in the event that he’s disabled?
- She is complaining about being evicted from her apartment in exchange for 750k and then declares “I’ve had a horrible few years…” Excuse me? She is by no means poor or destitute, but thinks that the terms of their parting is so unfair. I don’t feel sorry for her because she should have paid a lawyer to make sure that she was going to be fine should they part. And, where is her lawyer? Why doesn’t he have a muzzle on this woman?
- Publicly declaring, on YouTube, no less, “I’m an idiot, I’m an effin idiot“. I hate to say this because I believe in the empowerment of women, but get some grace and class woman, you’re not an idiot, just misguided in the signing of your prenuptial agreement and suffering the emotional distress of a divorce. I get that, but there is no reason to air your dirty laundry for all of the world to see. She’s a successful playwright with the ability to start her life over here in the States or back in London, just do it! Pick your head up and walk away from this situation with the grace of a woman and not the tears of a child. You can do it.
- What part of her thinks so lowly of herself to accept a marriage in which no sex was to be had? She accepted this term of the marriage? Where was her duty to herself to demand that she have someone who loves her in all aspects, including sexually. In this day and age if smoke blows, there’s fire somewhere and he did a good job of blowing smoke up her @$$.
- She defames her husband and family through this tape which for me is the final straw. I had some semblance of pity for her until she shows us pictures of each one and then in words that only a two year old uses states his stepdaughter is a “bad, bad person”. Yes, I am a counselor in training but I can’t help but ask mental breakdown much? Really, much of this could have been averted with some meds and a good lawyer.
End. Snarky commentary
Take Care of Yourself
It’s probably best to start seeing a therapist, if nothing else for the purpose of having someone to confide in and make sure that you’re remaining psychologically and emotionally healthy as divorce can and will take its toll on you.
Please don’t underestimate the toll this process can have on your mind and body, take care of yourself during this time. Lastly, check out my article The Smart Woman’s Guide For The Soon To Be Divorced, it may be a bit out of your league but may offer some helpful tips.
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Trent Hamm (7 comments.) | Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
This woman has some serious self-esteem issues and should see a therapist immediately. This goes beyond personal finance help.
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Fabulously Broke (8 comments.) | Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
I haven’t seen it!
Wow.. talk about issues.
~Y (1 comments.) | Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
This is atrocious! I had heard about this video but this is the first time Im seeing it. I wish she’d taken better care of herself! This is a really valuable lesson for us all.
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That Saddity Chic (5 comments.) | Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
I may get some heat for saying this but I do feel bad for her. She really should have made sure she was taken care of financially before she married him. But she trusted he would do the right thing and now she’s screwed.
She did state that he was 25 years older than her. Maybe they didn’t marry for love. She probably wanted to be financially taken care of and in return he wanted a younger hot wife. On her end when she commited to her husband she gave up being with men her own age and possibly growing old with someone. That is the sacrifice she made to live a comfortable life now.
My fiance is twice my age and has amassed extreme wealth. Though I love him I do feel like I’m giving up alot of my youth and lessons I should be learning in my 20’s to be with him. I’ll be damned if he passes away or becomes disabled and I’m left worse off financially then when I got into my relationship. I’m just saying I can see where she’s coming from. It could happen to any of us.
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thebaglady (1 comments.) | Apr 16, 2008 | Reply
wow..that’s pretty sad, but I don’t pity her at all. She should learn to be independent herself.
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Rachel @ Master Your Card (6 comments.) | Apr 21, 2008 | Reply
In this day and age, all of us women, shoud understand about finances and be in a position where we can look after ourselves should something like this happen. There is no excuse for not making sure that you can manage financially.
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Goji Juice Girl (1 comments.) | Apr 21, 2008 | Reply
The whole “victim mentality” is one of my biggest pet peeves, so listening to this lady was like nails on chalkboard for me.
All she does is make excuses and whine and complain about how horrible everybody else is being to her, and yet she calls her soon to be ex up at his *office* and is childish enough to attempt to humiliate him at his work. I don’t care how angry or hurt you might be, have some dignity!
It’s hard to sit back and believe the husband’s so bad when his wife obviously needs some serious help and can do nothing but pin blame on him. It takes two to tango, and from what I’m seeing, I doubt she was such a swan to be married to.